Defining the problem is the first step toward dealing with it.

But take a deep breath. Theres hope for surviving this upcoming election season, and it doesnt require giving up your smartphone and moving to the woods. The truth is, theres no escape from partisan politics. People have disagreed about politics since the first government was formed, probably even before that. Defining the problem is the first step toward dealing with it. And in this case, the problem isnt political conflict; its what we do about it. Use the three tips below to get the habits and mind-set in place that can help you make it through the 2020 election with your sanity and your relationships intact. Avi Klein, L.C.S.W., is a psychotherapist in New York City and cohost of Hey, Man - The Advice Podcast for Men.

Learn How to Change the Topic

UNLESS AN UNFORESEEN tragedy befalls Randall on This Is Us, the presidential election will be the most important thing to happen on a Tuesday all year long.

But that doesnt mean you have to talk about it. Why would you want to? At this stage, very little good can come from additional conversation. Whats the best you could hope for? That you change someones mind? LOL, no. Hearts and minds are not won via cocktail-party chatter. They evolve over time through lived experience. So when the election comes up in conversationand it will, whether you want it to or notyou might want to change the subject, lest politics hang heavily over your social occasion like a lingering, noxious fart.

The easiest way to extricate yourself is to say, You know, I havent been following it lately. Instead, Ive been... and then talk about literally anything else. Or pivot with a question. If they say, Hey, did ya watch the debate last night?, you say, Nope! I watched the Rockets game. Think those guys can go all the way? They say, If my candidate loses, Im moving to Canada. You say, Oh, man, where exactly will you go? They almost certainly wont have a real plan; empty threats like this are just how people talk about politics, and theyre yet another reason not to engage. But in the unlikely event that theyve thought through their American exodus, you already know what to say next: Can I help you pack? Nick Marino

Follow a Health Media Diet

BACK WHEN YOU couldnt get CNN in your cave, you were always on high alert for some crumb of news that would tell you it was safe to go out and score some dinner. Youd scan. Youd consume. Same with food. It was scarce; you stayed vigilant. Scarfed up every bit you got. Which is a pretty nasty evolutionary habit to break. Now that were bathing in an easily accessible glut of news, were suffering from a kind of cognitive gluttony. Were just not built to handle whats coming at us. So until evolution catches up, we gathered top experts to outline exactly what a healthy media diet looks like.

Have three media meals a day.*

Unless your livelihood depends on knowing every single nuance of every single developing news event, you dont need to check the news every minute. Look at the news and your social-media feeds once in the morning, once at lunch, and once in the evening, says Mary McNaughton-Cassill, Ph.D., who has researched the effect of news watching at the University of Texas at San Antonio. Thats it.

*As with a regular diet, meal frequencies and sizes can vary depending on individual factors, such as your personality, profession, and comfort with ambiguity.

Cut out junk.

Lets start with social media, because, like the checkout counter at the mini-mart, its very nature is to serve up the most irresistible (and inflammatory) stuff possible. Cutting back also helps you avoid the ugly vortex of mindless scrolling. Many people scroll when theyre bored, depressed, or anxious, says McNaughton-Cassill, and news-related content can reinforce these negative emotions. No need to eliminate everything; just unfollow what annoys you. And if you see something alarming, click through to the original source, says journalism professor Karen McIntyre at Virginia Commonwealth University.

Figure out if that burger is impossible.

Fake reported news, like fake meat, is really good at its game right now. While social media giants are making efforts to tag false information, you cant expect them to do the job for you. Refine your own BS detector. Boost your analytical abilities with questions like If Im wrong, where can I find evidence that disconfirms my belief? says Michael Bronstein, Ph.D., at Yale University. Check what the other side says. Allsides.com links to articles reflecting the left, center, and right views on various issues. Visit , a site that verifies and refutes claims in news stories.

Reach for something really satisfying.

First, fill up on multiple, credible sources. No publication is perfect, but Knight Foundation surveys suggest that people perceive PBS News, National Public Radio, the Associated Press, ABC News, and CBS News to be the least biased news sources. If that leaves you cold, check the growing movement in news called solutions journalism. (Find stories at .) This flip the frame to show how people are responding to problems, says McIntyre. Consuming this news may make you feel better about negative news you read later. Julie Stewart

And if the election doesn't go your way...adopt this strategy.

Someone, eventually, is going to win this electionwhich means many other someones will lose. Perhaps even your chosen someone will be swept into the dustbin of history.

If this happens, do not despair. Resist the urge to purchase a piata in the shape of the winner. That wont help. What will help is moving off the sidelines and into the game. Instead of channeling your hopes into someone else, start a little grassroots activism yourself. March. Organize. Protest. Boycott. Write an op-ed. Run for local office. Youre a citizen. Act like it.

Also, take solace in the fact that losing candidates typically land on their feet. John McCain returned to the Senate, where in 2017 he cast the decisive health-care vote. Even John Edwards bounced back from fathering a secret love child while his wife was fighting cancer; hes now a civil rights lawyer.

If you absolutely cant quit your candidate, youll find a way to keep backing them. But frankly, its better to move on. Whoever loses the 2020 race will be just fine. And so will you. Nick Marino