At first glance, it might seem like their aim is strictly to troll each otherpublicly embarrass their partner in front of their combined 79.6 million social media followers. But theres a lot more happening underneath all that.
By continuously knocking each other down a few pegs, Blake and Ryan are actually checking each other. Theyre ensuring they dont get too attached to all the attention that comes with celebritymaking sure they instead prioritize the important things, like family. By keeping the intimate moments, well, intimate, and presenting only the goofy stuff, theyre keeping the sturdy relationship theyve built private and away from the watchful eyes of curious and opinionated fans.
Now, when it comes to explaining how each of these posts communicates this exactly, that's where things get a little trickywell, for someone who isnt an expert. For Naomi Arbit , PhD, a behavioral scientist and strategist in New York, however, its actually pretty easy.
Ahead, she decodes each of Blake and Ryans most savage posts, and explains how each is actually masking this Hollywood couples endless admiration for each other.
Blake is Ryan's biggest fan, but she plays it down in public.
Now, Blake could have posted the Deadpool movie poster and told her followers to go out and support her husband in his leading role, but she chose to be more low-key about it instead. And by low-key, I mean cheeky.
By posting a photo in which she's sitting on Ryan's lap while he's grabbing her boob and deadpanning at the camera she's giving off major take-it-or-leave it vibes. She knows the movie is great and she knows Ryan's great in it, so there's really no reason to ask people to buy tickets when the talent speaks for itself. Blake's secure about her husband, his abilities, and their marriage, says Arbit, so she doesn't feel "she has much to prove."
All the attention they get is nice, sure, but they don't need it.
Happy Birthday to my amazing wife. pic.twitter.com/7vulMXqOdp Ryan Reynolds (@VancityReynolds)
Let's revisit this A-plus trolling incident that basically broke the internet, shall we? While Ryan's intention was probably to get a few (million) laughs, which he got, his post also revealed something major about his relationship with Blake. "By pretending that he takes himself very seriously," he's communicating the exact opposite, says Arbit. If all the roles, awards, Hollywood Walk of Fame stars, fans, and profile interviews suddenly disappeared, relationship-wise, Blake and Ryan would probably be just fine.
Now, Arbit isn't saying it would be easy, but their marriage would survive since it's rooted in values that are way more substantial than public perception.
Still, Blake will show off how proud she is to be with Ryan from time to time.
According to her caption, Blake picked a good one. By congratulating herself on that fact, she's revealing how proud she is to be married to Ryan. And since Blake and Ryan don't have many photos of each other on their Instagram pages, posts like these are especially major, says Arbit. Blake and Ryan "each have their own rich, fulfilling lives, and while they clearly are very much in love and attached to one another, their worlds don't revolve around the other" so it's a big deal when they show appreciation for each other and their partnership.
Ryan and Blake trust each other completely.
It's one thing to be comfortable being and looking less than camera-ready around your partner, but another to collect those moments and publish them in a 10-part series on Instagram . But that just the kind of relationship Blake and Ryan have.
They've made their relationship a judgement-free zone, so when it comes to how anyone else sees them, they're not too concerned, says Arbit. All that matters is that they can be unpolished and raw during their intimate moments. And since they can fully be themselves around each other, it easier to not sweat the small stuff, like showing funny photos of each other to millions of people.
Think you love this relationship dynamic? Ryan loves it more.
Pretty sure it's my wife writing most of those. Sounds like her. https://t.co/V8wnAo19az Ryan Reynolds (@VancityReynolds)
It isn't lost on Ryan that the internet is obsessed with the way he and Blake regularly put each other on blast. It's funny, adorable, and #relatable. So, when a fan asked Ryan about all the requests for sexual favors the actor gets on Twitter, he took the opportunity to blame Blake for the raunchy asks. Making Blake the but of the joke...again is something Ryan can get away with because he and Blake are so confident in their marriage, says Arbit.
"He could only make fun of her in that way if he knew her feelings wouldn't be hurt," she adds. Because they work on communication, sacrifice, and trust like most other solid couples, they're able to make room in their relationship for the playfulness and humor everyone loves to see so much.