DJ Pierra Makena has bared her soul about the tumultuous journey she faced when her baby daddy got married to another woman while she was just five months pregnant.
In an interview with Eve Mungai on November 16, the popular DJ and actress shared her emotional rollercoaster, from heartbreak to healing, shedding light on her decision not to take legal action and her determination to protect her daughter's emotions.
Pierra Makena was hurt when baby daddy married another woman
The mother of one recounted the heart-wrenching moment when, after a seemingly amicable breakup, her partner distanced himself from her and their unborn child.
Despite the civil manner in which he withdrew, Makena was devastated when, just five months later, he married another woman.
The emotional toll of this revelation was profound, and Makena shared that she never thought she would overcome the pain.
"We had a very good relationship but after we broke up and I was pregnant, he left. He did not even want anything to do with us. And he was very polite about it, he wasn't rude, demeaning me, or anything. But five months later he got married to someone else...
"That was so hurting. I never thought I would move on from that but I did... Somehow I had to live with it because that's life," Makena admitted, emphasising the pain of adjusting to a reality where the person she once had a good relationship with was no longer a part of their lives.
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The DJ explained that the situation compelled her to learn contentment, accepting the cards life had dealt her.
She revealed that embracing the reality of her situation, despite the unexpected turn of events, played a crucial role in her emotional healing. Makena acknowledged the need to move forward and focus on providing a stable and loving environment for her daughter.
"For me am very content with where I am in life. I taught myself to be content when I realised I was pregnant and this man was not going to be there," she said.
Why Pierra Makena would never sue her baby daddy
When asked about her stance on legal action against her baby daddy, Makena firmly said she could never take him to court.
She emphasised the significance of allowing the father to be emotionally present in their child's life.
Makena encouraged emotional support over legal battles, emphasising the importance of fostering a healthy father-daughter relationship.
"I can never take a man to court. I cannot sue a man because he refused to take care of his child. That just sounds wrong. Let the man be there to hug the baby, let them love them emotionally," she said.
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Pierra Makena: My baby daddy wasn't married when I met him
Makena disclosed that she refrains from discussing her baby daddy on social media due to his marriage and his absence in their lives.
"He was never married. I am not that type of chick. There are so many people who people think are my baby daddies. and there are so many reasons I dont talk about him on social media. One because he is married and two he's not part of our lives..." she said.
While acknowledging the assumptions surrounding her relationships, she maintained her silence to protect her daughter from potential emotional distress.
Makena recounted a conversation where her baby daddy expressed a desire to be involved in their child's life, but she discovered that his intentions were not genuine.
"There's a time we met and talked, and he said ooh I've not been a good parent, and I would want to be in her life, and I said okay. Then I just discovered that his intentions were not right. I think he just wanted to achieve something at that time..." she said.
Pierra Makena is all about her daughter's emotional well-being
The DJ highlighted the necessity of safeguarding her daughter's emotions.
Despite acknowledging her baby daddy's role as the father, Makena stressed that she would not expose her daughter to emotional turmoil unless he demonstrates a genuine commitment to parenthood.
"He's the father of the child, and things will never change, but unless he changes and is ready to be a father, right now I dont want my daughter's emotions to be played with," she said.
Makena affirmed that she moved forward with her life.