Suba North Member of Parliament Millie Odhiambo has waded into the tragic murder of Ohangla dancer Sheila Odoyo Wegesha with a candid advice to men.
The lawmaker commented on the matter, noting that love is not expressed in anger, disrespect, drama, violence and murder.
In a strongly worded statement shared across her social media pages, the firebrand MP noted that people who find themselves in toxic relationships should exit immediately.
“You cannot plant mangoes and expect to reap cows. If you plant mangoes and they turn out as mangoes, accept the same graciously for what else could they be?” The MP started.
"Young men and women, listen good" the MP noted before sharing her candid advice.
Millie Odiambo's advice on toxic relationships
She noted that couples should accept each other for who they are in their true character and anyone unable to stand the other along the way should simply walk away.
"You can not plant mangoes and expect to reap cows. If you plant mangoes and they turn out as mangoes, accept the same graciously for what else could they be?
"If however you thought you could withstand the taste of mangoes but now you can not, please leave. Never stay in a toxic relationship even for a minute. Never stay in an abusive relationship even for a minute." The MP noted.
She also noted that what other people say should not be a concern to anyone walking out of a toxic relationship in a bid to save their lives from possible negative outcomes, including death.
"Learn to not give a damn about what people will say if you leave, especially if you are trying to salvage your life. Kwani they feed you?. If anything, they will become motivational speakers on your death, giving insights into your life " I knew that girl, I knew that man. They were like this and like that." Millie wrote.
She cautioned the public, including bystanders against cheering on anyone doing wrong adding:
"To you onlooker, do not be overly involved in other people's lives. I notice there was more than two people in this marriage on both sides. Fix your own marriage or lack of it. Let other people fix their own.
"Never cheer on anyone in wrong-doing especially where your cheering them on will not help in any way. For those who are cheering that man on, will it stop his prosecution? In the stillness of the night, he is alone as an alleged murderer. He will bear the stigma for life. All your lofty words about him can not change that, but may encourage another one to kill and then bear the brunt alone. "
Love is not expressed in anger, disrespect, drama, violence & murder
She added that drama, violence and murder are not ways to express love, noting that leaving is the best decision to make when things are not working.
"Finally, love is not expressed in anger, disrespect, drama, violence and murder. Just leave if it is not working." She added.
READ: Police probe Ohangla fan Sheila Wegesha's murder after being found dead in her home
Sheila was found dead in her bedroom with police treating her husband Jackson Bamboo who is still at large as a person of interest.
Editor's Note:
Report cases of sexual violence to the Wangu Kanja Foundation through toll free line 1519.
Intimate partner violence can also be reported through 24-hour national helpline for gender-based violence 1195.