Looking over the policy sections on your websites, we dont see a whole lot that you guys agree on. So how exactly does being friends work?
Taylor : Colin was the first person I called to congratulate on election night in 2018. Our districts are intertwinedwe have water issues together and transportation issues togetherand I knew I was gonna have to work with him. I came to Congress to get things done for my district, and building relationships is the first step. A relationship begins with a phone call.
Allred: And it does help that were friends. You could spend all your time focused on where you disagree with someone. You could have a good argument every day if you wanted to, but you wouldnt get much done. And anytime you dont have a relationship with somebody, its gonna be easier to demonize them.
Taylor : You want to focus on what you can work on together. You have to accept the arguments on the other side as valid when they are. You dont want to dismiss themat least understand what they are so that you are able to converse. Because if you dont know anything about what the other side is talking about, youre not going to be able to understand their perspective.
Since your districts are next to each other, you guys automatically have something in common. Whats the best way to talk with a colleague you either dont know or dont particularly like?
Taylor : Start with family.
Allred : Always ask about their families. Then: Hows life treating you? Especially with the new members: How are you settling into D.C.? The older members: How did you settle in? Once you start talking to each other along those lines, you pretty quickly realize how many similarities you have.
Taylor : The other key to talking with people is to know where they are. Whenever Im talking to anyone of Congress, I say, Hey, this is what I think. This is why I think you should do this. But you need to do whats good for you in your district. Its important to have those conversations and be honest with each other.
Allred : I always have a harder time when I feel like somebodys repeating talking points. Its like: Im trying to have a conversation with you; you dont need to lobby me. Youre also probably not going to change my mind just with talking points that weve all heard on the news.
How much of the bickering and vitriol that we see on TV is real and how much of it is just for show?
Allred : I dont think that its as pervasive as it might seem on TV, but there are certainly people in D.C. who dont like each other.
Taylor : And TV gravitates toward those people. Hey, wanna go on TV and bash the other side?
A llred : Also, its not like Allred and Taylor Come Together to Work on Moderate Bill is raging news.
More and more, it seems like that divisiveness is seeping into our everyday lives. Whats a solution to that? Other than working out together.
Taylor : You cant just watch cable news to get your information. You have to get out of your ideological bubble.
Allred : Same with social media. Weve got algorithms that enforce your existing worldview. All of us now have to be more proactive about getting outside of our little bubble and have an understanding of all sides of the issues.
Taylor : We need to think about these conversations as an opportunity to educate ourselves and learn from other people. Its a smart thing to have a diversity of perspectives. No two people agree with each other all the time. If you dont believe me, ask your significant other.
Allred : And there are important differences! Dont get me wrong. And thats what our elections are about. Thats democracy. Thats healthy. What isnt healthy is when you assume that the person who disagrees with you is also a bad person. Because if you cant disagree without thinking someone else is bad or evil, then you start pulling apart the seams of our country, and we have to be very careful about that.