When you have been in a relationship for a long time, you may want your long term boyfriend to propose but he isnt doing it.

You guys have been together long enough, you've talked about getting married and starting a family but so much time passes that you are left with no other choice but to give him a nudge in that direction.

Your best option is open communication. Avoid any ultimatums or using the pregnancy gimmick.

But should you need an extra hand so that he doesn't feel ambushed when you talk to him about a wedding, you should try the following things.

1. Drop hints

Your partner may not have proposed yet because they fear rejection or there are other factors such as family wrangles or fear of disputes. Show your partner that you would be comfortable with marriage in the way you talk about it. When introducing weddings in casual conversation, show your partner that he is guaranteed a yes whenever he pops the question. Also show that you're willing to be patient- within reason.

2. Start picking wedding details

Randomly read a bridal magazine and ask his opinion on various wedding dresses or rings or colour combinations. Explore the idea of a dream wedding and if he is willing to participate introduce the topic of marriage later.

3. Don't allow input from outsiders

Nothing kills a relationship faster than a meddling in-law. Even questions from well meaning friends such as, "What is your future intention?" or "You've been together for so long, what are you waiting for?" are never helpful. Applying unnecessary pressure will only cause strife in your relationship. So even though your friends and family know you really want to get married, tell them they are not allowed to bring it up.

4. Visit honeymoon themed areas

Visit places that are very couple or romance oriented. Places with a sultry ambience, no children, and wedding bells in the distance. Even men want to enjoy their weddings and going to a place that paints some idyllic future for the two of you will nudge him closer to an engagement.

Remember that you still have to be honest and talk about it. Other factors that may be preventing from proposing are financial constraints, illness, job related issues and the like. So remember that while you may be ready to get married, he may not be. This should be pursued if you're both ready for marriage but he just seems to be dragging his feet.