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3 reasons it's a bad idea to take your ex back

In modern romance, the ex-factor often pops up, stirring trouble in new relationships.
The likelihood of a union being truly healthy for 10 years and then crashing is low. [Credit Youtube]
The likelihood of a union being truly healthy for 10 years and then crashing is low. [Credit Youtube]

Whether it's someone not over their ex or struggling to maintain healthy boundaries with a past flame, these scenarios can hamper the growth of new relationships and breed trust issues.

Wondering why rekindling an old flame might not be such a hot idea? Here's the lowdown:

1. Being taken for granted

Reuniting with an ex might send the wrong signal: that no matter what they do, you're always game for a comeback. This can lead to a lopsided love affair where you're taken for granted.

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Your needs and feelings might end up on the back burner, leaving you lost in a relationship that's more about them than it is about you both.

2. The vicious cycle

Ever heard of history repeating itself? That's what often happens with exes. The issues that caused the initial breakup tend to resurface.

If it was bad enough to end once, chances are it hasn't magically fixed itself. You might find yourself stuck in a loop of breakups and makeups.

3. Increasing disrespect

Here's a harsh truth: if your ex mistreated you once, taking them back could embolden them to push boundaries further.

They might interpret your willingness to reconcile as a sign that they can get away with more. Respect and mutual care are the bedrocks of a healthy relationship - don't settle for less.

 Rekindling an old flame often seems tempting, but it's usually a path paved with repeated heartache and diminishing self-respect.

Your past belongs in the rearview mirror, not in the driver's seat of your love life. The right person won't make you question your worth.

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